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Snooki, Frances Bean & Lindsay

Thursday, March 8th, 2012

Snooki wants her baby to be “pretty and popular”.

Frances Bean IS pretty and popular (except with her mother).

But pretty and popular only gets you so far.

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY, LADIES

Images via Jezebel & Tumblr

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TERRY VS. THE MODELS: AN ISSUE OF POWER

Thursday, March 8th, 2012

A few days ago New York Times journalist Laura M. Holson published an article titled, “The Naught Knave Of Fashion’s Court”. It made Jamie Peck really angry. So angry, in fact, that Peck called up her friends at Jezebel (again) and published the sequel to her first anti-Terry piece, the new one titled, “Why Does The Media Continue To Act Like Terry Richardson Isn’t Fucked Up?” In the piece, Peck mentions how she was interviewed by Holson for the New York Times piece on Richardson. “I hoped that by cooperating with her, I could provide these crucial details to the story,” Peck wrote. “As I am to date one of just two people willing to go on the record non-anonymously about a negative encounter with Terry.”

“The negative encounter” Peck is referring to is one she wrote about for The Gloss last year. Peck talked about her experiences modeling for “cheesecake” photos with Richardson when she was in her late teens and early twenties. Peck’s story paints Terry as someone who is weird and sexually manipulative as he “got naked” and persuaded Peck to give him a hand job while Richardson’s entourage of adult employees egged Peck on, took photos and then handed her a cum rag.

As Peck’s story came out, so did more accounts from models alleging abuse from The Hipster Photographer. Young up-and-comers like Coco Rocha said they would never again work with Richardson because they felt uncomfortable, but Rocha did not spill the details. After the other stories had surfaced, it was easy to assume that Rocha had the same feelings as Peck and model Rie Rasmussen.

In her latest retort to Holson’s pro-Terry profile, Peck wrote:

“The way the industry is currently structured, a model has zero recourse if a photographer is behaving inappropriately — other than to walk out, lose the job and damage a relationship, plus risk being reprimanded by her agency. Does that sound fair to you? Terry’s behavior is emblematic of this, but he is by no means unique. I’m going to venture that most of the Times’ readers are not fashion insiders, so a bit of critical background might be of use.

The article is heavily weighted with quotes from people like Chloe Sevigny and Richardson’s editor at Taschen Dian Hanson, who think the things he does are cool and adorable and not at all criminal. And yet, even when people praise him, their words are somewhat revealing. “Maybe it is manipulative, but when you are with him, you don’t feel it,” says Chloe Sevigny. Yes, Chloe. You don’t feel it. That is the whole point of being manipulative. If people realize you’re doing it, you’ve failed.”


Terry with Lana Del Rey

The whole Richardson-sexual-abuse issue speaks to the relationship between photographer and model, sexual power dynamics and the grey area of sexual abuse and rape. Like I said when these allegations first surfaced, “The problem isn’t that Terry fucks models, the problem is why Terry is able to fuck models and why they fuck him back [even if they want not want to]. Maybe some girls were cool with his advances, but Jaime and Rie weren’t.” If we’re going to talk about people abusing their position as “boss” in any work environment, we should bring up the idea that there is always a “passive” receiver of abuse and an “aggressive” abuser. This is usually a female-male treatment, a dynamic that lends itself to rape, non-rape, whatever you want to call it, when someone tries to make sexual advances on another person while in a position of power. It’s wrong, but it happens all the time. It happens all the fucking time.

The story is further complicated when a hand full of Richardson’s clients paint him as a sexual deviant and on the opposing side, a hand full of his friends paint him as a lovable, hard-working genius. Who the hell are you supposed to believe? If this was the 1980′s, you can bet that there would be a lot of slut-shaming going on and none of those so-called “sluts” would have had their stories told. The Richardson issue is a classic case of her story verses his story, and in a lot of ways, he has the power.

Richardson and his art are supported by a lot of well-respected, cultural makers and these influential people deny the allegations from women who claim to be abused by Uncle Terry. Fame complicates things by bringing it to a public level. Responsibility changes. Opinions of the public change. If this story was just about some nobody photographer, maybe people would have no problem calling him out on his actions? But, Richardson is not nobody. He is respected and ultra-famous. He’s essential to his industry, which is why it’s so much harder for women to come forward if they have had bad experienced with him or with anyone at his level. Maybe it’s why Coco Rocha isn’t dishing the details of her encounter, but is instead just saying she won’t work with him anymore. Maybe the relationship between Rocha and Richardson was ruined by something that wasn’t sexual, but it’s easy to assume it was sexual, especially with all the other allegations.

Terry with Elton John

As my friend Hether Fortune said:

“Things get tricky for me when art and sex collide because I value the collision so much. Some of the creepiest, most fucked up people in history have produced some of the most beautiful art (Terry is not one of them in my opinion, but you know what I’m saying). Like Roman Polanski, for example. Is he a slimy Casanova wanna-be that fucks underage girls? Yes. Does that discredit him as an artist and a filmmaker? No. I don’t think it does. And the fact is, if he weren’t sexually deviant he wouldn’t be who he is & his contributions to film wouldn’t exist and I think his contributions are important. See how this is tricky for me? As a woman & a humanist/feminist, I want to throw stones at anyone who takes advantage of another human being in any way – specifically sexually. But as an artist, I want to celebrate them for having the courage to be exactly who they are, as depraved and fucked as it may be, and to MAKE something out of that depravity and force others to see things that they may not want to see. Not everything is black & white. Not every man who enjoys seducing young women is a bastard, an abuser, or a rapist. It’s just not that simple.”

Social media has also played a part in this. We can now know everything about everyone, even people A-listed beyond us. Some would argue that an artist’s personal life should not affect the way his/her art is viewed. No one seemed to shun Eric Clapton for getting high on heroin and then raping his wife. Not many people hate John Lennon because he was violent and abusive towards women. Led Zepplin is still respected despite the fact that they were notoriously sexist towards women, mainly groupies, even teaming up with their roadies to fuck a girl with shark parts and admitting it in the biography “Hammer Of The Gods”. Maybe if these groupies had felt violated by these actions (and it was 2012 not the 1970′s), they could talk about it more openly without being called “sluts”. I think we can thank feminism for the gender discussion and the internet for providing a place for global conversation. (Thanks Jezebel, Feministing, Hay Ladies and the millions of other places that talk openly and controversially about these gender and sex issues.)

How does Richardson feel about all this? He’s ignoring it. In the New York Times piece, Holson touched on the allegations against Uncle Terry:

“Ms. Rasmussen and Ms. Rocha declined to comment when reached through their representatives recently, and at Smile, Mr. Richardson was not interested in revisiting the controversy. “Of course it was hurtful,” he said. “Yes, I was upset. It’s not nice for all these people to make up stuff about you. The flip side is, I just stopped reading it and I kept working.”

Richardson can say this because he is in the position of power. Whether he did these things or not and whether those things are considered sexual abuse or not, it doesn’t matter as much as the fact that Richardson can (and does) “stop reading” and “keep working” without the media demanding he comment beyond that. This issue here is about power and in this case, Uncle Terry has it.

All photos via terrysdiary.com


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JUDGE JUDY: THE REASON I YELL

Thursday, March 1st, 2012

My boyfriend thinks Judge Judy is to blame for my loud mouth tendencies

I’ve been a loyal Judge Judy fan since I got my first job in high school at a dry cleaners. Barb, the chummy, chain-smoking British woman who owned the place, needed help and I needed money. It was an easy “yes”. Barb was a huge Judge Judy fan. Every day at 4 pm, she would call me into the back of the store so we could watch Judge Judy together. We’d kick our feet up on a messy table and stare at the tiny television which was propped up on a mess of baskets and retired machines.

Barb looked to Judge Judy like her religion and I gladly followed suit. Not only was the half-hour courtroom drama a break from my shift of removing the lipstick tubes from the pockets of pant suits, but I really loved the show. It became an addiction. I loved the way Judge Judy rolled her eyes at the courtroom. I loved it when she lost her temper and stormed into her chambers. I especially loved it when someone talked back to her. She’d call them “fresh mouth” and dismiss their case without hesitation. I have always been attracted to loud mouth, no-nonsense women even if they are a little crazy or stubborn. Judge Judy was the Queen Bee of no-nonsense and she had the pedestal to prove it.

My boyfriend often complains that I yell too much, I’m too intense or I get fired up too easily. One of his theories is that I watch too much aggressive television and this has rubbed off on me. Amongst other shows like Intervention or Chopped, he also blames Judge Judy. Last week I fell asleep while watching Judge Judy, the volume at full blast. I slept happily through the sounds of Judy yelling at a courtroom. My boyfriend just shook his head. As much as his theory is mostly a joke, I know he doesn’t get Judge Judy like I do. I like the yelling. I like it when she smacks her fist down. I like the aggressiveness.

Judge Judy is the perfect reality television show for many reasons. First off, it’s short, a case runs a maximum of 20 minutes. It involves real people who are in a legal combat with one another. It’s got an element of gossip. The show presents viewers with a problem, a discussion of that problem, which is controlled by Judge Judy (the plaintiff and the defendant can not directly speak to one another), and an inevitable solving of the initial problem. There is a winner and a loser. A good guy and a bad guy. It’s a spectacle with a contestant the viewer can root for.

Once a case is selected and approved for air, the plaintiff and the defendant are provided airfare, a hotel stay and merely $100 to appear on the show (plus $35 for any additional days of taping). When Judge Judy makes her final ruling on the case, the award for the judgment is paid out from a fund reserved by the producers for that purpose. No one actually has to pay anyone back from their own pocket. Another rule of Judge Judy? Once your case has been judged on air, you can not take it to any other court room. “The rulings are final.”

Most of the cases on Judge Judy have to do with incidents that result in physical injury. Whether it’s drunken bar brawl, or a car accident or two kids on the play ground fighting, most people are suing for medical bills. Why don’t they have these kind of courtroom shows in Canada, Holland or Switzerland? Three words: universal health care.

Me, with Judge Judy’s Hollywood star in 2009

An episode that always stuck with me is one where a teenage girl is suing two other teenage girls for harassment and emotional distress. The plaintiff had been the subject of bullying which lead to her being stabbed five times in the stomach, back and chest, hospitalizing her. The girl who had committed the stabbing was arrested, but since then, the two accomplices to the stabber had been harassing the plaintiff. The defendant’s mother knew about the harassment and refused to do something about it, so the plaintiff and her mother decided to bring her to Judge Judy. When you watch the video of this case, it’s clear that the plaintiff and her mother are not after money, they just want the violence between the plaintiff and the defendants to stop. What does it say when their most realistic, legal way to settle this dispute is to go on daytime television? Judge Judy awarded the plaintiff $5000 stating that if only for the defendants acting with the stabber as a pact, the stabber would have never had the courage to do it.

First and foremost, I am entertained by Judge Judy, but I also learn from her. It’s crazy, I know, but I’m not the only one. Tracie Egan Morrissey over at Jezebel has expressed her love for J.J. in many articles, even detailing how the legal lessons from Judge Judy saved her in a car accident. (Side note: Tracie also creates comics like this which, when compounded with her other work, makes her genius.)

It’s easy to write Judge Judy off as “trash television” when episodes feature bat shit crazy people suing their friends over lost Tupperware, but these episodes are like the first round of American Idol – exploit the willing idiots for entertainment. It’s not exactly ethical, but what about reality television is ethical? If it was ethical, we wouldn’t watch it because it would be boring.

Maybe Judge Judy is the reason I storm around the house yelling out my to-do lists, but I don’t care. Judge Judy has been my show since I was fifteen and I’m not giving that up for anyone, including my boyfriend.

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A MUSIC PARTY FOR PILES

Monday, February 27th, 2012

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JOAN RIVERS: “WE’RE ALL OUR OWN BARBIE DOLL”

Wednesday, February 22nd, 2012

What did I learn from seeing Joan Rivers’ closet? Everything I need to know about survival.

Via New York Magazine

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THE GRAMMYS: WHITNEY’S FINAL “FUCK YOU”

Saturday, February 18th, 2012

While sitting in my living room (slightly stoned and full of sushi) I decided to watch The Grammys. Last week’s Grammys buzz was all about Adele, Bruno Mars, Chris Brown, Taylor Swift and all the other superstars that had been set to perform in between the nominations. Some of us were dying to hear Adele. Others were wondering if Jay-Z was going to let Blue Ivy accept any awards on his behalf. And anyone sane was hoping that Chris Brown would fall off stage, fly into a dangerous set design and paralyze himself from the dick down.

Then, Sunday happened. We all found out that Whitney Houston had been found dead in her Beverly Hilton hotel bathroom. The internet flooded with R.I.P. tweets and video links to “I Will Always Love You”.

When The Grammys kicked off with its traditional red carpet meet-and-greet, every celebrity from Robyn to Ice-T was not talking about their designer outfits, but instead about Whitney and her unexpectedly tragic passing. As the awards began, L.L. Cool J said a prayer for Whitney and as the night rolled on tributes, video clips, speeches and prayers were all directed to the late singer who’s mid-life crack addiction became more famous than her extensive vocal range. I imagined the Sunday night pre-Grammys scramble. Speeches had to be changed. Teleprompter messages had to be revised. Tributes had to be added to the already tightly organized event. It was Whitney’s final “fuck you” to the whole music industry and all those who ridiculed her for her turbulent marriage, her crack addiction and even her noticeable weight gain when she sobered up. Whitney died the night before the most highly publicized music award ceremony in American history and the whole thing had to celebrate her. It had to honor her despite her. It was the perfect “fuck you” to everyone who had turned their back on Whitney when she got rough, when she got real, when she wasn’t so perfect. R.I.P. Whitney.

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